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The Impact of a Mentoring Mom

Posted on May 14, 2017

The Impact of a Mentoring Mom

Scripture Reading

2 Timothy 1:5

I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well

Introduction / Video – Super Mom

Illustration: Anna M. Jarvis (1864-1948) first suggested the national observance of an annual day honoring all mothers because she had loved her own mother so dearly. At a memorial service for her mother on May 10, 1908, Miss Jarvis gave a carnation (her mother’s favorite flower) to each person who attended. Within he next few years, the idea of a day to honor mothers gained popularity, and Mother’s Day was observed in a number of large cities in the U.S. On May 9, 1914, by an act of Congress, President Woodrow Wilson proclaimed the second Sunday in May as Mother’s Day. He established the day as a time for "public expression of our love and reverence for the mothers of our country.? By then it had become customary to wear white carnations to honor departed mothers and red to honor the living, a custom that continues to this day.

 I’m aware that Mother’s Day is anything but happy for some of you.

* Maybe you want to be a mother but you can’t be for some reason

* Perhaps some of you have not had the best mother in the world

* Some of you have had a mother who has died

* A handful of mothers have lost a child to death

* Some of you mothers feel the pain of a wayward child this morning

* And, some of you are flying solo as you work hard to nurture your child’s faith

  • I want to propose this morning that a mom can be a spiritual mentor to her children with or without the help of a dad.
  • Let me introduce you to a young woman named Eunice. She was raised in a religious home and was greatly impacted by her mother Lois. She loved to learn the stories from the Bible when she was young and enjoyed going to services where she could learn about God. As she approached her teenage years, she was still focused on spiritual matters but she became attracted to a young man who was not into religion at all. Against the best wishes of her godly mother, the teaching of her faith, and the tug of her conscience, she married the man. Don’t get me wrong – he was a nice guy but thought spiritual matters were for weak people.
  • After a couple years of marriage, Eunice and her husband had a baby boy named Timothy. In the meantime, Eunice’s dad had died so they asked her mother Lois to come and live with them. Little Timmy was a delight to everyone. Both his mother and grandmother spent hours with him, teaching him the Bible, praying with him and for him, and training him in the things of God, creating a spiritual environment where tiny Tim could flourish.
  • We don’t really know when Grandma Lois became a follower of the Lord Jesus but it could have been at Pentecost where we read that 3,000 were saved from all over the area (Acts 2:41). Whenever it happened, she passed her faith on to her daughter Eunice. Acts 16:1 tells us that she was raised in the Jewish faith and had recently become a believer. These new believers in turn focused on teaching Timothy who Jesus was. We know from reading the book of Acts that Paul himself took a personal interest in Tim the teenager and, in tandem with his mother and grandmother, led him to saving faith.
  • Later, Paul and Timothy partner together in ministry as the gospel continues to spread throughout the area. Many years later he writes two letters to young Timothy. These letters contain some teaching about how Timothy should behave as a church leader and are also filled with some reminiscing and nostalgia on Paul’s part. As Paul writes these letters, that we know as 1 Timothy and 2 Timothy, he reflects on the mothers who made an impact in Tim’s life.
  • With that as background, let’s turn to 2 Timothy 1:5 to see how a mother (and a grandmother) can be spiritual mentors to children with or without the help of a dad. We don’t know much about Timothy’s dad other than he was a Greek and not a believer. We’re not told if he deserted the family or if he was around but just absent spiritually. Incidentally, I’m not suggesting that dads don’t matter. In fact, they matter a lot. We will talk about that on June 18th when we talk about Father’s on Father’s Day

Quote: C. Everett Koop, the former Surgeon General said this: “Life affords no greater responsibility and no greater privilege, than the raising of the next generation.”

  • Have you ever stopped and wondered how we’re doing at passing along a sincere faith to the next generation? Judges 2:10 paints a picture that may be prophetic of the state of the church today: “After that whole generation had been gathered to their fathers, another generation grew up, who knew neither the Lord nor what He had done for Israel.”
  • Pastor Paul posted an article on the church Facebook page entitled European Childless Leaders Sleepwalking the West to Disaster

Quote: “There have never been so many childless politicians leading Europe as today. They are modern, open minded and multicultural and they know that "everything finishes with them". In the short term, being childless is a relief since it means no spending for families, no sacrifices and that no one complains about the future consequences. As in a research report financed by the European Union: "No kids, no problem!"

Europe's most important leaders are all childless: German Chancellor Angela Merkel, Dutch Prime Minister Mark Rutte and the French presidential hopeful Emmanuel Macron. The list continues with Swedish Prime Minister Stefan Löfven, Luxembourg's Prime Minister Xavier Bettel and Scottish First Minister Nicola Sturgeon.

As Europe's leaders have no children, they seem have no reason to worry about the future of their continent. German philosopher Rüdiger Safranski wrote:

"for the childless, thinking in terms of the generations to come loses relevance. Therefore, they behave more and more as if they were the last and see themselves as standing at the end of the chain".

Purpose: Every Christ follower needs to honor and respect mothers for the positive impacts she has made on their lives.

Transition: It is so important to take care of the most precious gift or gifts God has given you mothers’ and that is your children.

The Mentoring Mom

  • Imprint a vibrantfaith on your kids’ hearts
    • Live it out loud – I Peter 3:1

I Peter 3:1

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives

  • It is the everyday example of your life that wins pre-Christian husbands and kids over.
  • It is the faithful repetition of doing the same things over and over again that makes a difference in the lives of your kids. Do you count the cost??
  • For many years, the musical Rent was the most popular show on Broadway. It followed the lives of young artists struggling to make it in NYC in the days when the AIDS crisis was claiming many young lives. One of the enduring songs from the musical is “Seasons of Love.”

Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes.

 How do you measure, measure a year?

Five hundred twenty-five thousand journeys to plan.

 How do you measure the life of a woman or a man?

In inches, in miles, in laughter, in strife.

How do you measure a year in the life?

 How about love? How about love? Measure in love.”

  • The song reminds us that lives are measured in days, and days are measured in moments, and moments add up to something when they’re offered in love to the people around us. Living on mission is about recognizing those moments; seizing them, making the most of them, because they matter
  • Moms are the most underrated in our society, even more than teachers. They are taken for granted
  • Many moms who have college degrees have chosen to stay home to raise kids and wonder as time goes on, is it really worth giving up my career.
  • Other moms who are in a career wonder how to balance time for work, their husband, their kids and find some time for themselves.
  • Regardless of how you feel, you are making a BIG impact on your kids and preparing them to live out a Biblical worldview
  • I am reminded as of late how important the mundane, repetitious things of life are.
    • Repetition of the mundane tasks builds
      • Security for your kids
      • Teaches faithfulness
      • Teaches work ethic and good habits of personal hygiene, etc.
      • We think the ordinary is not extraordinary. But it is. Your kids will remember and cherish memories of how they were raised
      • ! A diaper changed or not changed. It matters, doesn’t it? A tree planted, or not planted. It matters, doesn’t it? A meal served, or missed, matters to someone who’s hungry. A phone call made, or unmade, matters to the person who’s waiting for it. An act of kindness done, or undone, matters to the person who needs help. A word spoken, or left unsaid. A smile offered, or withheld. A check written, or held back. An invitation to church ventured, or stifled. A conversation begun, or never had. These things matter. There’s a person on the other end of these transactions. There’s a relationship that’s either nurtured or stifled. A life or a community that’s being enriched or diminished. These everyday tasks are central to our mission.
      • Never underestimate the ordinary, plain things of a day.
      • Moses was on the backside of a desert doing what he had done for 40 long years and then the burning bush appeared
      • Think of Joshua and Caleb, the two spies that believed God could give them the Promised Land but the 10 spies and Israel did not believe it. Can you imagine what Joshua and Caleb thought that for forty years they wandered in circles in the wilderness until they finally got to see God’s promise fulfilled and they did nothing wrong!!
      • It’s not enough to live it out but you need to share your faith verbally
  • Shareit out loud – Deuteronomy 6:4-9
    • We reference this scripture many times. What it is saying simply is that as you go through life, look for opportunities to create spiritual, moral, and skill building teachable moments that will prepare you kids when they group up.
    • Remember, kids from birth through adolescence are moving from dependency to independence. That is the emotional, physical and psychological goal behind parenting.
    • Teach kids to see God in the day to day ordinary things of life because I don’t know about you, but I see Him everywhere I go.
    • The biggest challenge to sharing life on life are square rectangles called screens. Technology is a wonderful thing but is quickly replacing face to face conversation. As moms and dads, you need to have a philosophy about how and when your kids use their screens

Illustration: he survey was conducted among 1,000 checking or savings account holders, age 18 and above, who also own smartphones. A large majority of respondents, 71 percent, said they usually sleep with or next to their mobile phone — and 3 percent of those people said they sleep with their device in their hand, 13 percent said they keep it on the bed and 55 percent leave it on the nightstand.

Almost one in four said that at one time or another, they’ve fallen asleep with their smartphone in their hand.

Thirty-five percent of respondents said their smartphone is the first thing they reach for when they wake up. Only 17 percent said they grab coffee as soon as they wake up, 13 percent said they go for their toothbrush and just 10 percent said they reach for their significant other.

(And if you happen to love your smartphone more than your significant other, you’re not alone. A 2014 survey found that Americans consider their smartphones to be more important than physical intimacy.

  • A great resource that just came out from a Christian perspective
    • Tech – Wise families by Andy Crouch – heard him on Janet Parschal moodyradioqc.fm

 

Application: Be bold with your kids about your faith

Transition: Go all out in talking and living out your faith with your family.

  • Imprint a love for God’s Word on your kids’ hearts – Psalm 1:2-3; 92:12 – 15
    • This will bring them successin God’s eyes – Joshua 1:8
      • What could be more successful in this life than instilling a Biblical worldview in your kids’ lives by memorizing, studying and applying God’s Word with them? You cannot put a price tag on it.
      • More than teaching them the rote memory of scripture, share the amazing stories of the people in it and personalize it
        • Adventures in Odyssey has some great stories from the Bible
        • Veggie Tales – the older versions are great.
  • This will keep them from sin – Psalm 119:9,11

Psalm 119:9,11

How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.

I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.

Application: Be looking for times to build God’s Word into our kids’ hearts

Transition: Next, it is a mom and dad’s responsibility to teach your kids to serve others. To look beyond their own interests and to the needs and interests to others

  • Imprint a heart to serve– Acts 16:1 – 3

Acts 16:1 – 3

Paul came also to Derbe and to Lystra. A disciple was there, named Timothy, the son of a Jewish woman who was a believer, but his father was a Greek. 2 He was well spoken of by the brothers[b] at Lystra and Iconium. 3 Paul wanted Timothy to accompany him, and he took him and circumcised him because of the Jews who were in those places, for they all knew that his father was a Greek.

  • Timothy was a strong believer
    • He is referred to as a “disciple.” Luke, the author of Acts, could have referred to him as a believer or a Christian, but he chose to call him a disciple. A disciple is a learner and a follower. A disciple was one who was serious about Christ, not just one who was going through the motions.
  • Timothy had a good reputation
    • The believers in the area “spoke well of him.” People knew him as a man of integrity and as a man of the Word. He was rock solid.
  • Timothy was available
    • Paul wanted to “take him along on the journey.” As you continue to read the Book of Acts, you’ll see that Timothy was eager to minister. He knew it meant leaving home and he knew it meant facing hardship.
    • Paul enlisted Timothy to be his special assistant to replace John Mark and refers to him as his “beloved son” in 1 Corinthians 4:17 and in 1 Timothy 1:2, he calls him his “own son in the faith.” In Philippians 2:20, Paul can’t think of anyone like Timothy when he writes: “I have no one else like him, who takes a genuine interest in your welfare.” Paul thought very highly of Timothy and couldn’t wait to unleash him for ministry
    • Mentoring moms make sure that children know how to minister. Our kids are to learn the Bible and grow in their faith so that they can become difference-makers in their world.
      • So they can share their faith with others.
      •  So they can minister in the church and in their school. So they can help those who are hurting.
      • So they can serve possibly in full time ministry if God calls them.
      • So they can identify their spiritual gifts and use them on a regular basis.

Application: Allow your kids to see you serve others

Transition: Pray over your children and ask God where He wants to use them now and as adults to be difference makers in the lives of others.

The Mentoring Grandparents

  • Before wrapping up I want to emphasize the importance again of grandmas (and grandpas). Remember it was in a grandma that the faith “first lived.” If you’re a grandparent, you have the opportunity to make a grand impact.
  • For two solid hours, a grandma talked about her grandchildren to a man sitting next to her on an airplane. She even brought out all her pictures of her eight grandkids and described each one of them to the man. After talking for so long she suddenly realized that she had dominated the whole conversation. As the plane was preparing to land, she said, “Oh, I’ve done all the talking, and I’m so sorry. I know you probably have some things you want to say. Please, tell me…what do you think of my grandchildren?”
  • I read a study recently that shows the bond between grandparents and grandchildren is second in emotional power and influence only to the relationship between parents and children. Did you know that most of the famous people in the Bible were grandparents?
  • Grandchildren bring joy- Psalm 128:6
    • Psalm 128:6: “And may you live to see your children’s children.” One grandma commented, “If I had to do it all over again, I’d just bypass children and have grandchildren.” I think I’ve heard my mom say that about me!
    • Grandchildren are a reward- Proverbs 17:6
      • Proverbs 17:6: “Children’s children are a crown to the aged…” Someone put it this way: “Your children may have kept you poor, but their children will make you rich.”
      • Grandparents can be an extra godly influencethat is needed
        • One of the best kings God’s people ever had was Hezekiah. Hezekiah’s dad was Ahaz, one of the worst kings. But, he had a grandfather named Jotham who filled in the gap. Thankfully, Hezekiah took after his grandpa and not his dad. The glory of Grandparents is that they can fill in the gap. That’s exactly what many of you are doing for your own grandkids. Even if one generation goes astray, the next generation can be brought back through the godly influence of grandparents. Bless you for standing in the gap for your grandkids!
        • Mentoring Ideas

Titus 2:2 – 5

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

  • Mom’s group is just the beginning point of this. Adult Growth Groups even less.
  • We need to develop in our church a mentoring ministry for men and women to fulfill what this scripture is talking about.
  • Sharing one on one or one on a few have life on life encouragement and accountability to know you are not walking on this journey alone but to sharpen your spiritual walk.
  • The elders will be talking about this as well as those in our Men’s and Women’s ministries. Younger moms mentored by those who have been through it and experienced raising kids.

Application: Grandparents, take the initiative to discuss with your kids what role you should play in the spiritual growth of your grandkids.

Transition: Today, we honor our mother’s. They are the glue that holds the family together and has probably the greatest influence on their kids. Football players often say Hi to their moms when the cameras are on them. So we pay respect to you today.

Key Thought: Moms have the power like no one else to prepare their kids to live a lifetime for God.

(Have mom’s stand)

Proverbs 31:30 says that, “a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” We praise God for those mothers who worship and adore the Lord and who pass this legacy of faith on to their children.

(Applaud the mothers)

Let’s Pray while Mom’s are standing